If you want to transform your sex life, and learn how to transform your flagging love life into a sexy, mutually satisfying sex life Cassandra Lorius Wants to Offer You an Unprecedented Learning Experience... An individual consultation intensive for Sexual Solutions, aimed at giving you a road map to Improve your sex life and sexual relationship skills.

Individual consultations are strategy planning intensives for which you complete a comprehensive questionnaire about your sex life and relationship issues, and Cassandra uses this to map out transformative strategies for your specific problems, before they even get on the phone. The session can be sharing these strategies and spent fine tuning the planning, or elaborating areas you wish to pursue!

What will you get out of an individualised consultation?

A personalised plan to get you working on improving your sex life NOW!

Take the first step to revamping your sex life now, by booking an initial consultation. The cost of the intensive planning consultation is £120, which covers my time spent pre-planning using your comprehensive questionnaire as well as the time we spend together on the telephone.

Pay now to book your consultation and you will receive a comprehensive questionnaire designed to collect information on every aspect of your relationship, sexual experience and sexual dysfunction.

You will need to spend some time thinking about these questions before filling in your reply. Not all of them will be applicable to you - once you answer those that are relevant, you will send the questionnaire back and we will schedule our hour long telephone consultation.

The purpose of the comprehensive questionnaire is to get you thinking, and to give me as much information as possible - so that I can work out an overall plan to improving your sex life, before we get down to fine tuning the strategy details in our conversation.

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Further coaching or sex therapy sessions can be agreed after the initial consultation intensive, if on-going support is required to implement changes. These are charged at £60.

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You don't need to be in a relationship to work on your sexual and relationship problems.

Issues that prompt you to consider a consultation could be virtually anything.

Common topics include;

Incorporating drugs such as Cialis/ Viagra for erectile problmes into your relationship.

Reigniting sexual interest for busy professionals – where sex has become perfunctory and infrequent.

Mismatched desire or styles of love-making.

Self esteem and body issues – for women or men, young or old.

Dealing with illness and it's physical consequences for sex, as well as the fact that your partner may have become something of a carer.

Dealing with infidelity issues – including for gay couples.

Sexual changes with menopause; dealing with dryness, desire, ageing etc.

Dealing with internet porn.

CASSANDRA LORIUS MA, LCH, RSHom, PGDip

Cassandra Lorius has worked in holistic health field for over 25 years and completed an MA on Sex Therapy in the UK in 1990. She trained with the Coaching Academy and then went on to receive a post graduate diploma in Sexual and Relationship Psychotherapy from Porterbrook (NHS) Clinic in Sheffield, a BASRT recognised training centre. Cassandra Lorius has written 4 best selling books on sex, including 7 Steps to the Best Sex of your Life.

Cassandra is available for individual or couple consultations, in North London, by telephone, or via Skype.

CASE STUDIES: SEX THERAPY FOR COUPLES SOLUTIONS

Unable to sustain an erection.

Ryan was an overweight taxi driver who was raised by a capable single mother, together with four sisters. He consulted me because although he loved women and had a string of lovers, he found himself unable to perform. He'd tried Viagra a few times but this didn't seem to be give him an erection, and he couldn't get on with a vacuum pump because it seemed too mechanical. After suggesting dietary and lifestyle changes aimed at reducing his cholesterol levels (because high cholesterol can contribute to erection difficulties), we explored his psychological issues.

In spite of his evident attraction for strong, sexy women, he found he avoiding getting close and making a commitment. He made sure he wouldn't get overly involved by having casual lovers on the side. He dealt with his own sexual problems by exclusively focusing on his partner's sexual pleasure, becoming something of an expert at giving pleasure orally.

Sex therapy involved encouraging Ryan to focus on his own pleasure, learning to lie back and receive, rather than always having to compensate for his sense of inadequacy. Psychotherapy explored many of the reasons for his ambivalence. He realised that although he admired his mother he had never really felt loved by her – perhaps because she was so busy and pre-occupied or perhaps because she just wasn't a demonstrative person. He felt trapped in always trying to win approval and love from women. Over a few months he learnt to value himself and bring his own needs and desires into the relationship. Therapy resolved these conflicts, helped him back to erectile function, and he was clearer about what kind of loving relationship he wanted.

Pain during intercourse

Susan was an intelligent businesswoman, but something of a perfectionist, which made it hard to relax. Her partner didn't want to come in for therapy with her, saying that he wasn't bothered by the fact that they had little sex. They had been together for 16 years, and for the first few years intercourse had been painful for Susan. "I felt tight and it took months before he could even come inside. It's better now, but I still don't enjoy it. My partner gets mad because I just don't want to make love. I'm always worried that he's going to hurt me." We used CBT (Cognitive Behavioural Therapy) techniques to explore her belief systems and the self-talk she had around sex and the ways that these impacted on her own behaviours.

In the end her partner did join her for a few sessions, in which we explored their relationship issues and negotiated an agreement for them to avoid sexual intercourse and explore other aspects of their sexual relationship, which they did for several months. Our individual work involved improving her body image, exploring her own sensual and erotic fantasies and encouraging her to communicate more directly with her partner. This gave her confidence to be more active erotically, and she began to enjoy planning and initiating surprises. Once she had reclaimed her own sexuality, she was much more aroused and the problems with pain on penetration cleared up.

We also used psychodynamic therapy techniques to look at underlying conflicts. Psychologically, she realised that she was not able to give herself fully to the relationship because of her unhappiness that they hadn't married yet. Part of her was unable to let go of family and religious values that regarded sex before marriage as unacceptable. He didn't want to get married until they had children, but their sexual problems were one factor reducing the likelihood of having children. The couple decided to get engaged.

Lack of arousal and pleasure

Frank was heading towards alcoholism, but he felt he needed the alcohol to cope with his chronic feelings of agitation. Alcohol and cigarettes weren't helping his erection problems, but he could hardly feel his genitals even during masturbation. In fact his masturbation style may have been partially responsible for dulling his pleasurable sensations so that found it difficult to reach orgasm. He said that he no longer felt like a man, and he described the feelings of deficiency that had driven him to a pretty compulsive habit of searching for on-line porn, over the years. Because he was now seriously contemplating using some of the sexual services he'd come across, he consulted me for treatment.

Depth psychotherapy addressed issues of self-esteem, anxiety and substance use over 18 months, allowing him to learn to relax and be more comfortable with himself as well as open with others, while sex therapy offered methods for exploring and changing his sexual preoccupations and responses. Initially this was achieved through masturbation practice, through which he rediscovered sexual sensations.

At the same time we focused on his social and relational skills in many of his relationships with others. In order to prepare for a sexual relationship, he needed to improve his patterns of relating and communicate more honestly, to foster more intimacy. He was most pleased by rebuilding his relationships with his mother and siblings – because he'd been cut off from the family for nearly 2 decades.

As he commented when he left therapy, 'My relationship with myself is much better, and I feel like a sexual person again".